I recently, before the George Floyd murder, asked my 20 year-old grandson what he thought the world looked like today and how he was dealing with it. He looked down, then looked up at me and said, “It is what it is. I do my school-work, listen to my mom and help around the house.” (This was a distancing lunch, masks on, Mother’s Day.)

Besides the fact that a 20 year-old said that he listens to his mom (and I do believe he’s referring to the fact that he knows he can’t go out other than for a run or to walk the dog and DOES empty the garbage without being asked and vacuums the house) his answer, “It is what it is,” struck me.

I have thought about it for several weeks and because Jacob is a man of few words, I wonder if he means that: Life is what it needs to be right now and I can’t change it, so I will just do what I have to do or is it: Life is a bitch and here we are, or is it that he is just resigned to the State of the Union and the world is just F—ed up now?

I know if I pursue these questions with him, he’ll say, “Butzee! Not now! Vacuuming!” Even if he’s not. So I just have to wait and oh, maybe a year from now ask how he looks back on 2020 and see if a year’s worth of life experiences and education will give him more words to talk about what his truth is. I know he’s one of those people who needs time to contemplate before he speaks, just like his mom, who often says about a variety of things, not just a movie: “The credits are still rolling!” She needs time to internalise what she has seen, heard and experienced. Apples don’t fall far from the tree!

For me, I worry so much about the effect the pandemic will have on my grandkids and their peers. An entire generation of young minds and bodies are going through something we can’t personally identify with at their age, other than what we felt in eighth grade when we had to read Anne Frank. And though her writing may have appeared to be fictional to us, as Jews, we knew it was a real life story.

Do our grandkids look out the window, knowing a potential killer is out there and yearn for the day they can run outside and scream, “I am free!” Because I wonder if they might think they are being held hostage. As grandmothers, we know we are prisoners to this invisible predator. We may fear the science more readily than the kids, with dread that our own bodies could succumb to its pursuit. If ever there was a real generation gap, as I’ve seen and heard, it’s young people who say, “It won’t touch me.” We know it can touch us.

All this led me to thinking about the defining moments in our lives that changed the world as we saw and knew it. Is the pandemic of 2020 that moment for our grandkids? Add the trashing of some our most iconic cities this past weekend, what thoughts are running through the minds of young people today? I would hope and encourage that they see the maturity of the young activist, Greta Thunberg and want to be part of the solution and not the problem.

I have to believe that for us Baby Boomers, JFK’s assassination was that historical moment when we were speechless with shock and disbelief. We all remember where we were the moment the news hit us; we can all share, word for word, moment by moment, what our reaction was, how we felt, and what life-long impact that experience embedded upon our brain.

Have you asked your grandchildren what their opinions, thoughts and views are about what the world/their experiences are today?

What a great teaching/learning moment to share your ah-ah story with them, as they share their thoughts with you.

May I suggest that we seize the moment, create an everlasting memory with these precious children and see the similarities and differences of the adjectives used as they communicate their views on today’s events.

My 16 year old granddaughter, who is an extremely active Jewish teen: she was supposed to be going to Jewish summer camp for a month this summer, cancelled due to the pandemic. For the past year she has planned on taking her fall semester of her junior year in Israel which was also cancelled due to the pandemic. She recently commented to me:

Right now it’s hard to take things personally and I know it will have an effect on me for the rest of my life. I know it will teach me new values and options about this world that we live in that I wouldn’t have already had. It will help me know how to protect myself and those who I care about. Most importantly I think it will prepare me for challenges that arise while learning the ability to be flexible and open for the hardships I will have to endure.Out of the mouth of babes….

I pray that the pallet of the future for my grandkids, and yours, is bright with shades of joy, love, peace and health….Amen

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Sandra Taradash
As a Baby Boomer Bubbe who still feels 18 but has four grand kids to prove this is the 21st Century, Sandra writes to leave a legacy for the next generations. Her belief that these precious kids need to know their cultural and family's past in order for them to live their best future is all the muse she needs. She has a Master's Degree in Psychology and Cross Cultural studies, has written a family history, personal memoir, has completed her first novel and is working on her second. She spent some of her best times as a national board member to Women of Reform Judaism and president of her Temple's chapter. She also worked for The J, the Jewish newspaper of the San Francisco Bay Area. Her Bubbe's journey to America from Russia, with a life of too many losses, is her source for her deep belief and love for Judaism and family. Sandra is proudly Californian born and bred. These days, when Sandra is not writing or spending time with her three children and grandchildren, she is a Home Chef for local families who don't have time to cook healthy, fresh meals. She creates weekly menus for the families to choose from, provides their ingredient list and then goes to the client's home and cooks the various dishes! Stories and food---SO Jewish!

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